To tranfer files you need an account on the other box ('remote').
All services requiere a running server on the other side. perhaps you have also one or more firewalls in you way, that is something i can not figure out from here but may cause the service to fail.

1. ftp - interactive program
usage: ftp remote
it ask for user and password you can use 'cd' to change directory on the remote machine and 'lcd' on your local box. use 'put filelocal' to send files to remote machine

2. scp - non interactive
scp filelocal user@remote:.
will copy the 'filelocal' into the home directory of 'user' on remote.

for both commands: read the man pages for more information