let me save everyone the pain that it caused me.

This is all free. And make sure it is in this order

1) make sure you have the latest version of perl installed
2) make sure you have NET:aemon installed
3) make sure you have RPC::PlServer & PlClient (the bundle has both)
4) make sure you have the latest version of DBI installed
5) make sure you have the latest version of TDS (http://www.freetds.org)(no configureing is needed)
6) make sure you have DBD::Sybase installed

and your rocking and rollin. btw default port for M$ SQL Server is 1433. DBD::Sybase uses 4000 as the default.

(yes i even tried to look for ODBC stuff. and i said forget it. it was to much hasstle to A) find a free ODBC manager B) then find a sql driver for free)