dear paul@saccom,
1. since you have a pentium machine, the best for you is LINUX. You may try Redhat or SuSe. They are available for free download. the download sites for LINUX is numerous.
2. XML,
PERL,
TCL, etc
3. same
4. google.com. look for tutorial+<subject>
imho...
all the best and welcome to UNIX world!